Holiday Tips for Parents and Caregivers of Children with Autism
With the holidays just around the corner many families are preparing for gatherings with friends and family. A time filled with traditions, food, music, and much excitement. For children with autism spectrum disorder (ASD), however, this can be an overwhelming and stressful time. It’s important to note that each child has their own limits and tolerance so it’s important to adjust to their individual needs. These holiday tips can help make this upcoming holiday season a little less stressful and a little more enjoyable for everyone involved.
Planning ahead can make a big difference. Most people like to plan and prepare before trips, parties, or events, and this is especially helpful when supporting a child with ASD. Planning ahead can minimize the unnecessary stress on your child. Taking time to simply talk with close family and friends about your child’s needs can go a long way. You can discuss your child’s current triggers, and behaviors that might cause your child a range of emotional and physical reactions. This also gives you a chance to ask what kind of food will be served, music played, and if there will be bright lights or large crowds. Simple planning ahead and preparation can create a more enjoyable experience for everyone involved.
Children with ASD tend to have sensory sensitivity, which means they can have a strong reaction to certain sounds, smells, tastes, textures, and bright lights. Make sure your child dresses for comfort because let’s be real, nobody likes itchy and uncomfortable holiday attire. It’s ok if everyone is dressing up and your child isn’t. Noise-canceling headphones are a must when your child is sensitive to certain noises or loud environments, and we all know holidays are known for both. If your child has sensitivity to lights make sure to try and avoid bright or flickering displays. You can always opt for more sensory friendly décor like soft lighting or decorations that are dimmable for your home as well. If possible, designate a quiet place or safe retreat for your child to take breaks and reset if things get overwhelming. Food can also be a big source of sensory input. When it comes to food you can expect diverse textures, temperatures, and different smells. Children with sensory sensitivity may not like certain textures and smells when it comes to food. Bringing along some of your child’s favorite foods and snacks can help if the selection available is unappealing to your child or is limited.
Including your child in holiday decisions can also help reduce anxiety and increase their comfort. You can talk to them about upcoming events, what they can expect at these gatherings, and maybe even show them pictures of places that you will be visiting. Let them know that it is ok to skip certain activities if they don’t feel up to it. Giving them choices such as whether they’d like to decorate, set the table, or assist with small kitchen tasks can help them feel in included and in control. and that they have the independence to choose what they want to join in on. Respecting their boundaries help build confidence and trust and it’s important for them to know that it’s ok to not participate if they don’t want to. This can help ensure they have a positive experience during the holidays.
Finally, it’s important to remember that every child has their own limits, and understanding those limits can help plan more effectively and minimize stress. There’s no “one size fits all” approach when it comes to parenting, especially during busy holiday seasons. Trust that you know what works best for your child and how to best meet their needs. Most importantly, be kind to yourself, and try to focus on your child’s comfort and joy. The holidays don’t have to be picture-perfect to be meaningful. Hopefully, these tips can help you and your loved ones create a warm, inclusive, and memorable holiday season for your entire family to enjoy.